This is the way all humans were made – to go forward, not back.
Think about that for a minute.
How much time have you spent turning around, obsessing about the past, and dwelling over what has already happened? Let me tell you the answer: too much.
Yesterday has happened, and if you are reading this, you have been given today to live another day. And you can look forward to tomorrow, too!
Remember the positives and learn from the negatives, but don’t forget to keep looking forward.
Even if you are moving slowly, it is better than standing still.
If you’re feeling discouraged, frustrated, or unsure about something that’s already happened, here is a list of things you do to help you focus on moving forward:
Make a list of what you are looking forward to
This list doesn’t have to be big or a lot of work to put together. It can be as simple as making a mental checklist each morning before you leave the house about things that you are looking forward to that day. For example, this morning mine was:
- Having lunch with my sister who is visiting from out of town
- Buying a new book that I've been looking forward to reading for a while now
- Going to yoga school tonight
Don’t expect every day to be the best day of your life
The truth is that some days are harder than others. But if you learn from them, these bad days are never wasted. Live through them in a way that when tomorrow comes, you can be proud and happy of who you are.
Some days will be harder than others, depending on what you are going through, but just do your best. All days are precious - the good ones and the bad ones - and if we are lucky we have many more days them to live.
Accept the bad times, do your best, and they will pass.
Remember that you are responsible for your own happiness
When things aren’t going well, take a deep breath, look inside yourself, and ask what you can do differently as a person to be truly happy, satisfied, and gracious.
Do not look for the answer in other people or things. Do not place blame or point out other people’s weaknesses – this is personal. It’s your journey.
The answer isn’t always the one we want to hear, so sometimes it’s hard to find - but it’s there, and it's going to take some work to find and work towards. You will have to be dedicated and it will not happen overnight.
Be open to change and embrace it
The only thing constant thing in life is change.
Life changes without your permission and you have to be open to trying new things.
Accept the fact that as life changes, and as your grow forward, your dreams may change too. Don’t resist this. It’s ok to be a different person than you once were.
Whether it is alone or with someone you love, always remember to keep your head up, eyes open, and walk in the direction you were born to: forward.