Tuesday, 6 May 2014

Five Tips for Spring Cleaning (and I don't mean your closet)

It’s that time of year again – to go through your things, clean up your life and de-clutter your home. By now you’ve probably already washed your windows, walls and curtains, donated a couple bags of clothes and raked up all the dead leafs off your lawn.

But what about your heart? It can get cluttered, dusty, and full of old crap, too. This spring, take the ambition you have for spring cleaning from the inside out, and start cleaning up your life.

Here are five things to let go of this spring:

Guilt

I held on to for years. It was awful. And when I finally let go of it was like a weight had been lifted off my shoulders and I could breathe a bit deeper. Guilt is toxic and clutters your heart and mind.

If your guilt involves someone else and the opportunity is there, try to reach out to that person and mend fences. Bite the bullet and apologize. But know that your apology may not be well received and recognize that the apology may be more for your healing than for the other person. But that's ok. If it's something you have to do, then do it.

If you’re unable to do that or if you’ve already attempted to unsuccessfully do that, then work on finding peace knowing that you are a good person and have done all that you can. Focus on the days ahead. Talk to yourself like a friend would. Change your thought patterns to manage your state of mind. Remember that rolling around in the muck will not help get you clean.

Assumptions

We all make assumptions – weather they be in the form of expectations or judgment. Most of us make assumptions on a daily basis and then we are disappointed, either in ourselves or other people, when things don’t go the way they think they should.

Focus on living in the present moment – the only moment that exists – and try to let go of any expectations you may have. Don’t judge and be open minded.

Anything that you don’t love

Is there something in your life that you don’t love? Or something that brings you more worry, stress, or anxiety than happiness? Cleaning up your calendar (whether it be socially or professionally) will help you make more time for yourself and other things that are more meaningful to you. This could be a relationship, a social obligation, maybe a second job…it will be different for everyone. Sit down and think about what you love about your life and what you don't. Ask yourself questions such as:
·         What is draining my energy?
·         Where is my biggest source of stress?

Make a plan so that you can let go of what doesn’t serve you. This can be hard, but eventually you have to toss out that old sweater in your closet, right? No matter how beautiful it once was and how much you used to love it, maybe it’s time has passed and you need to make room for something new.

Unpredictable people

Unpredictable people can be chaotic and take you on an emotional rollercoaster ride. One day they can be very positive and uplifting, and the next day they can drag you down lower than anyone else.

No one is perfect, and everyone has the right to their feelings. This includes being upset or having a bad day. But people who are constantly unpredictable can create too much chaos in your already-busy world.

Think about how you feel before you spend time with someone. Are you nervous? Tired? Worried? Do you trust them? Reflect on the relationships in your life and know that the best way to predict future behaviour is past behavior. Distance yourself from those who you don’t trust or  may trigger stress or anxiety on repeated occasions.

The Past

Love it and cherish it, but do not dwell on it. Life is too short. What's done is done. Look back at your past with a smile, lessons learned, and as a life worth living. It's only going to get better.


Always remember to not feel guilty about any changes you decide to make and live in the present moment.  

Have you done any spring cleaning this year? What inspires you to make changes?

Thanks for reading,

Lisa

Practising yoga after raking my lawn.
Spring cleaning from the inside out.