February – the month of love. Valentine’s Day is celebrated by many, and those who don’t celebrate it can’t escape the red balloons and heart shaped boxes of chocolates everywhere. But if this day means wallowing in self-pity and eating out of a tub of ice cream on the couch listening to sob music, then look no further. If you’re feeling lonely and want to know what you need to do to help you find “the one”, the answer is easy: you to need to do more yoga.
This how and why yoga can help you find love:
Yoga makes you spend a lot of time with yourself - inside your heart, soul and mind.
In a yoga practice, it’s just you and you mat. And during this time, you get to know yourself on a deeper level. Maybe on a level that you never knew existed. What do you really want out of life? What do you need out of life? Don’t force anything and let the thoughts naturally come and go. Answers may come to you when you least expect it, and can be applied to all circumstances – including your love life.
Yoga places no judgment on yourself or others
Yoga means to unite the body, mind and soul. It doesn’t care what clothes you wear, what you ate for supper, or where you live. It’s important to remember this in a practice.
Yoga says you’re supposed to be nice to yourself. Don’t judge your body. Notice negative thoughts and let them go. Don’t judge your neighbour, either. It doesn’t matter how close their nose gets to their toes, what they’re wearing, or if they showed up five minutes late for class.
The more you practice this non-judgmental state of mind, the more you may notice judgments that you place on yourself and others throughout your daily activities, therefore making it easier to lessen the judgments and ultimately, letting them go. Naturally, this will open many opportunities for you in life, including in the dating world.
Yoga will help you learn patience
Anytime you feel you need to move faster in a yoga class is a sign that you need to slow down. Yoga is not a race or a competition – and neither is life. It may take months or years before you take a pose to the next level and this is true with relationships, too. Be patient with yourself and with your practice. Be patient with the journey of life. It will all happen as it’s supposed to, and practicing yoga can help you understand this.
Yoga will teach you how to respect your boundaries
When you let go of judgment, you become more in tune with your boundaries and know that it’s ok to stop if something doesn’t feel right, or if it causes you pain. This is why child’s pose is offered in many classes – to stop and take a break. Everyone’s body is different and capable of doing different things. This is true with a person’s heart, too. The more you get to know and accept yourself, the more likely you are to respect yourself, making it easier to choose the right partner for yourself or move on if you know they’re not right.
Yoga encourages self-love
It’s true what they say – you can’t love anyone else until you love yourself. Not only does the physical movement of yoga release your “happy hormones,” like all exercise does, but it allows you to take time out of your day for you, and only you. Showing up on the mat is loving yourself, and everyone needs more of that.
Put down the ice cream and don’t allow self-pity to creep into your life. Practice more yoga and let your body and emotions flow. Great things will happen.